The term “father” represents a position within a family. To father is an action that means to create life, as well as raise up your children.
“For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything.
For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word. He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish. Instead, she will be holy and without fault. In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself. No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church. And we are members of his body.
As the scriptures say, a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one. This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one. So again, I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” – Ephesians 5:22-33
This headship is not like a dictator but a servant leader; one who serves by studying each circumstance the family encounters and makes a decision based on the best interest of the family.
His decision is to line up with the Word of God. For this to happen, he must read the Word and understand it. The father is the leader of the family. Below are a few things I desire to accomplish this year and in the future as the father of my family, as well as a leader in the Body of Christ. I encourage you to read these goals and create some of your own. Hopefully our goals will be similar.
As a father I pledge to:
GUIDE-GUARD-GOVERN those I am in authority over.
• GUIDE: LEAD MY FAMILY AND ALL WHO WILL BE LEAD AT POWERHOUSE CHURCH INTO A DEEPER RELATIONSHIP WITH CHRIST.
• GUARD: TO DEFEND AND PRAY FOR MY FAMILY AND POWERHOUSE CHURCH
• GOVERN: BLESS AND CORRECT MY FAMILY AND MAKE HARD CALLS/DECISIONS
• CONFRONT DANGEROUS MINDSETS
• REJOICE WITH MATURE DECISIONS
• SET UP MY FAMILY AND THE CHURCH TO WIN WITHOUT ME
• LEAVE A LEGACY OF STRONG, COURAGEOUS SONS AND DAUGHTERS BOTH NATURALLY AND SPIRITUALLY.
As a member of the house, whether you are a wife, son or daughter, you have a great responsibility to follow your leader. We all desire to have guidance and a strong protection or guard, but what about when it comes to being governed or corrected? How do you respond to correction? If you cannot follow a man you can see, you will definitely have issues when trying to follow a God you cannot see.
Family, our men really need your loyalty and support or this team will struggle. Church members, your pastors are the same in that they need you to be quick to respond to their decisions and to give your best sacrifice unto the Lord.
Here is the thought I will leave with you: if we refuse to be governed, we cannot realistically expect to have the Lord’s guidance or protection. This equation is not easy, but it is simple. Die to yourself so the team can win!
A FATHERS JOB IS TO PROVIDE FOR HIS FAMILY; TO FILL THE HOUSE WITH CHILDREN AND FUND IT.
AS I LOOK AT OUR CHILDREN, I THINK ABOUT LEAVING A DEBT FREE LEGACY. THE BIBLE SAYS DAVID SUPPLIED THE GOLD FOR SOLOMON TO BUILD THE KINGDOM. DADS SERVE AND HELP THEIR FAMILY TO WIN.
I want to inspire you as a man to be a leader in your home and church. The world needs godly men with godly character. Start today by reading the Word of God to your family each day. You can do this!
YOU CAN BECOME THE ANSWER THIS WORLD NEEDS.
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