This blog is intended to give the reader practical tips on how to be a father. Whether you are raising sons, daughters, or you are mentoring a young protege, these key principles are the foundation to fathering.
Robert Owens, a motivational speaker, triathlon athlete, and leadership expert, shared six strategies to implement to fathering a son or a daughter. I would like to share the first three strategies with you today.
1) Affirm Vertically - This entails reminding the son or daughter what God thinks about them. This is so key because it is the foundation of identity. The protege needs to have a firm foundation on who they are (identity) in Christ. We all need to be reminded that we were created in the image of God and are to be reflections of that image. We need to be reminded that God created each of us with a purpose to fulfill. Our sons and daughters need to know that God thinks they are valuable and unique, and He proved it by sending Jesus to redeem them.
2) Approve Horizontally - A father will take time to approve of their sons and daughters accomplishments. In order to do this you must be aware of what is happening in their lives. This takes time. You must invest time to hear what they are doing, what they are attempting, wins, loses, etc. Even in failure, a father can be instrumental on helping a young person get back up and get back at it.
3) Lay Sound Foundations - Our sons and daughters need a firm foundation to stand on. It is important that we help them lay a firm foundation. A key is that as fathers we need be firm. We will only reproduce who we are, so we need to ensure we are standing firm as well. Here are a few Biblical foundations that need to be established:
• The Scriptures are the very Word of God (2 Timothy 3:16, Hebrews 4:12). • We are unique and have a purpose (Jeremiah 1:5, Ephesians 2:10).
• Obedience to God’s Word shows that we love God (1 John).
Men, you are the priest and leader in your home. We must learn better leadership skills, so that our families and churches will thrive.
On the next blog we will discuss the next three strategies. I encourage you to take these three principles and begin to implement them daily with your sons, daughters, and those you mentor.
Senior Pastor, PowerHouse Church
What an attribute of an honorable man, integrity.
The Bible asks the question: who can find a faithful man? Prob 20:6.
Why has it become the exception instead of the norm to find men that give their word and then keep their word?
I believe it’s easy; integrity is the sign that a man has become a new creation. 2 Cor 5:17. I believe integrity is a sign that you are born again.
Let me explain. Jesus is The Word. “In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.” – John 1:1 NKJV
Jesus therefore is “One with His Word.” He is integrity.
The word integrate and integrity have the same root. When schools were integrated in the 60’s children of all races were bussed to the same school. They became one.
When you married your wife, you became one with her and her with you. You are integrated with her.
In the same way we as believers must understand how very important our word is to us, others, and to God. We must keep our word.
People watch how we live. How we fulfill our word on a consistent basis. If we lie, they know Christ couldn’t be in us. He cannot lie.
When you give your word and break it, that’s called a lie.
The reason we are saved is because of the integrity of Christ. He told the disciple he would die and on the third day, he would resurrect. He kept His Word and by doing so allowed us to follow him into eternity. If He would not have come out of that tomb, we would all still have no hope of salvation. He proved we could trust what He said.
Jesus is integrity.
So, today, when you agree to be somewhere on time, to attend a function, to tithe and offer, etc etc etc do everything in your power to match your actions to your words. The result will be that people and God will see Jesus in you and more trust will be extended.